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This mother is paving the way for neurodiversity inclusion < Back Neurodiversity, Parenting, Community How this community is ending isolation for Neurodivergent youth This mother is paving the way for neurodiversity inclusion MMS Staff 14 Jan 2025 4-min read In a world where loneliness and isolation are all too common for neurodivergent individuals, Special Hangout stands as a much-needed beacon of hope, offering connection and belonging to neurodivergent individuals and their families. Founded by Ritu Vig, a dedicated mother of two sons — one neurotypical and one neurodivergent — this grassroots organization is creating waves by addressing a critical need: spaces where children with disabilities and their families can simply be themselves without fear of judgment or exclusion. A Personal Journey to Inclusion Ritu's journey into creating Special Hangout is deeply personal. Raising two sons, Kritin (22), who is neurodivergent, and Pranit (17), Ritu faced the challenges of balancing the needs of her children in a world that isn’t always accommodating. As they were growing up, I always felt that Pranit had a lot of friends and a lot of venues to go to with his friends and play with and spend time with them. Whereas, Kritin always longed to have those friendships. He had some friends in school, but if you'd ask me, after coming home there was nowhere he could go. Even if he did go downstairs with his brother Pranit and his friends, he was called names, he was bullied. “There was a point where Kritin would watch the children play from our balcony, and ask me, ‘Can I go down now? I promise I won’t trouble them!’” Ritu recalls, her voice tinged with the emotion of a mother who only wanted to provide her son with the same social experiences that every child deserves. But it wasn't just Kritin who was affected. Pranit, too, struggled with the emotional toll of witnessing his brother's exclusion. It was in these heart-wrenching moments that Ritu realized: This isn't just about my son — this is a universal issue for neurodivergent children everywhere. And so, Special Hangout was born — initially as small playdates, and now blossomed into an inclusive community with over 375 families involved. The Power of Togetherness The organization started small, but it didn't take long for the need for safe, inclusive spaces to become apparent. Events began to take shape, crafted with an understanding that every neurodivergent individual is different, and every family’s needs are unique. From Dandiya nights to movie screenings, every event is thoughtfully planned to accommodate sensory sensitivities, ensure comfort, and, most importantly, create a space where these young people and their families feel seen, heard, and valued. “We have to think about everything — sound levels, lighting, food preferences,” Ritu explains. For example, during our Diwali party, there were no crackers, because we know that many children are sensitive to them. At a movie screening, we made sure that if any child wanted to walk around, or touch the screen, or bring their own food, it was completely fine. There was even a trampoline for them to use when they needed a break. This attention to detail has made Special Hangout events feel like more than just social gatherings — they’re opportunities for neurodivergent children to have experiences that are both fun and comfortable, fostering connection and belonging without pressure. Breaking Myths, One Art at a Time A key part of the Special Hangout’s mission is debunking misconceptions about neurodivergence. Ritu highlights one of the most damaging myths: that neurodivergent individuals are “incapable” of accomplishing things. “It’s heartbreaking to hear people say that if a child can’t talk, they can’t write stories or paint beautiful pictures,” Ritu says. “We’ve seen these children achieve things that put us all to shame. They are just wired differently, they are different, not less.” One powerful example of this came during a painting exhibition at Kala Ghoda, where neurodivergent artists showcased their stunning works. “We sold artworks for around Rs 5 lakh to 6 lakh,” Ritu beams. “And what was incredible was the number of people who, without knowing us, walked in and bought several pieces. Even judges from the High Court bought paintings. It’s a testament to the fact that art transcends boundaries and appreciation goes beyond expectations.” Overcoming Challenges: Building Trust and Acceptance Despite the growing success, Ritu admits that gaining the trust of parents has been a major challenge. “It’s difficult to convince parents that these events are just as important as therapy,” she says. Many parents still prioritize structured therapy over social experiences, but Ritu emphasizes that Special Hangout’s unstructured, relaxed approach allows both the children and their parents to relax. “We don’t want to put any pressure on the children to perform. If they want to play cricket during a painting session, they can. We’re not concerned with structure, we’re focused on creating real connections,” Ritu explains. And it’s working. Parents are slowly but surely seeing the benefits of giving their children the freedom to just be without any constraints. A Vision for a More Inclusive Future As Special Hangout continues to grow, Ritu’s vision is clear: to create more safe spaces for neurodivergent individuals and their families across India. The organization’s “Hangout Buddies” program, which connects neurodivergent people with neurotypical buddies from all over India, is one step toward achieving that goal. From coffee dates to cultural celebrations, these buddy pairs are breaking down the walls of isolation and creating friendships that transcend difference. But Ritu doesn’t stop there. “I want Special Hangout in every city, street, and corner of Mumbai — and then beyond,” she says with unwavering determination. “There’s a huge demand from parents in the suburbs, and it’s time we expand. The need for these spaces is urgent, and I believe Special Hangout can be the solution.” Ritu Vig’s tireless work is changing the landscape of inclusion for neurodivergent individuals and their families. But as she says, “We need society’s acceptance. The ableism must go. We have to realise that the society belongs equally to them as much as it does to the neurotypicals/abled individuals.” Much much relate? Share it now! WhatsApp Facebook X (Twitter) LinkedIn Copy link < Back SHORTS

Understanding our world’s most urgent environmental challenges < Back Climate 8 things to know about climate change this World Environment Day Understanding our world’s most urgent environmental challenges MMS Staff 6 Jun 2024 2-min read This World Environment Day, it’s time to get real about climate change. Our planet is hitting some scary milestones, and - basically - it’s now or never. Here are eight climate change facts that we can't ignore any longer: Record temperatures: Seriously, 2023 was the hottest year on record. The heat is not just uncomfortable — it’s proving deadly for people and the planet. This trend is like a giant warning sign that we need to cut down on greenhouse gases. Check out the stats and freaky details on the EU’s climate monitoring service . If this doesn’t signify a clear and pressing need to address global warming, we don’t know what will. 2. Rising sea levels: As polar ice caps continue to melt, sea levels are rising at an alarming rate, threatening to reshape our coastlines and displace coastal communities around the world. Head to NASA’s sea level change portal to find out more. 3. Increased weather extremes: From devastating hurricanes and wildfires to severe droughts, the frequency and intensity of extreme weather events are going up, showing us how important it is to have resilient infrastructure and emergency preparedness. These incidents are chaotic and costly. Get the full low down here: NOAA’s extreme weather tracker . 4. Biodiversity loss: Climate change is a big threat to biodiversity. Animals and plants around the world are in serious danger. As habitats disappear faster than free Wi-Fi, entire species are going extinct, and countless others are at an increased risk of extinction due to habitat loss and changing ecosystems. Learn more at the World Wildlife Fund website. 5. Economic impact: Climate change is expensive — like seriously expensive. From ruined crops to rebuilding infrastructure after climate-related disasters, the economic hit is sometimes irrecoverable, affecting global economies and individual livelihoods. Bloomberg has the economic forecast on climate change costs . 6. Energy revolution: And now for a (little) bit of good news — renewable energy is on the rise, and it’s our best shot at a clean future. Solar power, wind energy, and other sustainable sources are key to reducing the use of fossil fuels. Renewable Energy World tells you how. 7. Innovative solutions: Technologies like enhanced geothermal systems, super-efficient solar cells, and heat pumps are taking the lead in providing cleaner energy alternatives and improving energy efficiency. They’re making green energy cheaper and more accessible. MIT Technology Review carries the latest in climate tech. 8. Global action required: Combating climate change requires global cooperation. International agreements and local initiatives are both crucial in addressing the many challenges posed by climate change. Learn how you can make a difference at United Nations Climate Action . This World Environment Day, let’s pledge to be more mindful of our environmental impact and take actionable steps towards sustainable living. Much much relate? Share it now! WhatsApp Facebook X (Twitter) LinkedIn Copy link < Back SHORTS

The real tea on how a lot of neurodivergents may show love (and you may never even know) < Back Neurodiversity 5 most relatable neurodivergent love languages explained The real tea on how a lot of neurodivergents may show love (and you may never even know) MMS Staff 31 Jul 2024 5-min read The phrase ‘love language’ became part of everyday lexicon with Dr Gary Chapman’s work. But the phrase is equally relevant to the neurodivergent world as well. And this became especially known when a tweet put out by @neurowonderful on Twitter/ X went quite viral. Neurodivergents - because of being wired differently - have their own unique ways to demonstrate love and affection towards their friends, family and significant others. While a lot of these will seem quite similar to the original love languages - words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, physical touch, and gift giving - the neurodivergent version adds its own, well, unique touch to it! To the uninitiated, neurodivergent love languages might go completely unseen and unappreciated, or, worse, come across as weird. Which is one of the reasons why neurodivergent folx are often grossly misunderstood. But first, a quick heads up: it goes unsaid that neurodivergent traits and behaviours - much like neurotypical traits & behaviours - cannot be clubbed together under one umbrella. And so all of these things might not apply to everyone who identifies as neurodivergent. If something on this list doesn't resonate with you, fair enough. Go on and let us know in the comments what your love language is! Infodumping Speaking at length and in detail about a very specific interest or passion. Why neurodivergents do this: Neurodivergent people infodump about a topic that they deeply care about or have been hyperfocusing on to share the feelings of joy it evokes in them. Unfortunately, not everyone understands this, and a lot of neurodivergents have said they think neurotypicals mistake this as bragging or just find it plain boring or weird. What you can do if you’re in a position where a neurodivergent person is infodumping: Recognise that they don’t mean any harm or want to one-up you with their knowledge. Take genuine interest in what they’re saying and show it. And if it’s a bad time, tell them politely you want to know more and will chat to them later about it. Parallel play This is also commonly known as body doubling. In simple terms, it means occupying the same physical - or digital - space while doing your own thing. Why neurodivergents do this: While a lot of us enjoy alone time, sometimes we crave company too. But not necessarily someone to do things with as opposed to someone just being around and doing their thing while we’re doing ours. Having others around you fosters a sense of gentle accountability that draws you into your work and helps you avoid distractions. People with ADHD often struggle with low dopamine levels, impacting their executive functioning, especially when it comes to mundane tasks like cleaning a room or doing the dishes. As a coping strategy, many individuals with ADHD call a friend to keep them company while performing these tasks, a practice known as body doubling. What you can do if a neurodivergent person invites you to parallel play: Recognise that it's not ‘hanging out’ in the sense of sitting around and chatting, although that might happen in between. Rather, if you've always wanted to have some time off to do a thing you like, this is the perfect opportunity to do it while having someone around. Support swapping This one’s similar to acts of service, but in neurodivergent terms, it simply means if someone’s low on spoons, or finds it particularly hard or overwhelming to do something, you help them out with it. This could mean something as simple as going across the road to get your neurodivergent friend a coffee because traffic lights and sounds overwhelm them, or writing an email for someone because they have a hard time figuring out their tone. In return, the neurodivergent person helps you out with something you find difficult and they don’t. Why neurodivergents need support swapping: A lot of things that come naturally to most neurotypicals are things that neurodivergents struggle with and vice versa. Having someone trusted who could help neurodivergents out with these tasks is really helpful. And in return, there’s lots of things neurodivergents are great at that they could help you out with too! How can you support swap with a neurodivergent person: Just ask how they would like to be supported, and do it within your means. In return, don’t be shy to tell them what you need help with either! Tight hugs aka ‘Please crush my soul back into my body’ Before we go on to explain this, remember that consent is the number one most important thing in all matters relating to physical touch. And while a lot of neurodivergent people despise physical touch, many equally love tight, bone-crushing hugs and deep pressure applied to their bodies. There’s just something about deep pressure that is just so relaxing. When to give soul crushing hugs to a neurodivergent friend or a loved one: Only when they ask you to and indicate they’re comfortable and in the right headspace for it. Remember that even the best things given when they’re not expected don’t feel very nice. How can you give a soul crushing hug: I found this cool button/ rock/ leaf and thought you’d love it Again, similar to gift giving, but with a (quirky) neurodivergent spin! Because neurodivergents have deep special interests, their gifts - or things they find cool and interesting - might seem awkward to neurotypicals. So the next time you get a parcel with something totally unexpected, like an antique stamp from the 1940s, don’t freak out - it might just be your neurodivergent friend trying to show their affection for you! Why this is a love language: Because, as stated above, a lot of neurodivergents have specific - sometimes niche - interests and passions. A lot of neurodivergents might also have social difficulties, so figuring out what someone else may like might be difficult. And the safest option when giving gifts, sometimes, is simply to give someone you love, something you love! Though asking what one likes always helps. So, if you don’t like it, communicate honestly and kindly to them. How can you gift something back to an ND: Great idea! Who doesn’t love gifts?! But hang on... a lot of NDs aren't particularly kicked about receiving surprises. So if you’re thinking of gifting your ND loved one something you’re dead sure they’ll appreciate, you might want to go ahead and ask/ check with them anyway. Just to be on the safer side. So now that you know, go on and tell us what your love languages are! Much much relate? Share it now! WhatsApp Facebook X (Twitter) LinkedIn Copy link < Back SHORTS

Confronting ableism and honouring the Disability Pride Flag this July < Back Disability Disability Pride Month: History, significance, and self-advocacy Confronting ableism and honouring the Disability Pride Flag this July MMS Staff 1 Jul 2024 3-minute read Happy Disability Pride month! People with disabilities represent the largest and most diverse minority group within the global population, encompassing all abilities, ages, races, ethnicities, religions, and socio-economic backgrounds. As per the WHO, an estimated 1.3 billion people globally experience significant disability. This represents 16 per cent of the world's population. With one in six of us having some type of disability, the disability pride movement is gaining momentum and expanding rapidly. But what exactly is disability pride? Understanding Disability Pride Disability Pride Month is a celebration of disabled individuals embracing their disabilities as integral parts of their identity. It involves reclaiming visibility in public, interacting fully with their disabilities out in the open, and rejecting shame and internalised ableism. This month-long observance is a time for the disability community to unite, uplift, and amplify one another’s voices, ensuring they are heard. Disability pride is about “accepting and honouring each person’s uniqueness and seeing it as a natural and beautiful part of human diversity.” The History of Disability Pride Month Disability Pride Month has its roots in the signing of the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA) on July 26, 1990. This landmark legislation, achieved after a hard-fought battle by disability advocates and allies, ensured greater access to employment, transportation, and community life for disabled people. The first official Disability Pride celebration took place in 2015, marking the 25th anniversary of the ADA. Since then, every July, we celebrate Disability Pride Month to honour and centre disabled people and their achievements. The Significance of Disability Pride Month Disability pride emerged as a response to the negative views of disability and as a movement to promote human rights. For many individuals, their disability is an integral part of their identity, not something to be separated or hidden. Society often frames disabled people as pitiable or helpless, an outdated and damaging perspective that can erode confidence and self-esteem, especially in the face of pervasive ableism. Defining disability pride is complex because it means different things to different people. It encompasses a wide range of experiences and perspectives, so exploring diverse voices and resources is essential to understand its full scope. What is self-advocacy? Self-advocacy involves individuals advocating for their own rights rather than relying on others to speak on their behalf. In the disability community, self-advocates are crucial in pushing for political and societal changes that directly impact their lives. However, being a self-advocate does not mean fighting alone; it means collaborating with others who share similar goals and working together to create a more inclusive world. Ancillary Movements and Disability Pride Alongside Disability Pride Month, other movements have emerged to promote acceptance and understanding of specific disabilities. For example, Autistic Pride Day, established in 2005, is celebrated annually on June 18 to heighten acceptance and understanding of autistic people. Why Disability Pride Matters Despite the progress made, people with disabilities often face ableism, inaccessibility, misinformation and misunderstanding, leading to their devaluation in society. Disability pride matters because it challenges systemic ableism and stigmatising definitions of disability, promoting acceptance and honouring each person’s uniqueness. What is Ableism? Ableism is discrimination against individuals with disabilities or medical conditions. Disability discrimination occurs when someone is treated differently or disadvantaged because of their disability. The Significance of the Disability Pride Flag The Disability Pride Flag, redesigned in 2021, symbolises various aspects of the disability experience. Created by Anne Magill in 2019, the new flag, which is more accessible for people with visually-triggered disabilities and colour blindness, features a charcoal grey background bisected diagonally by five parallel stripes in red, pale gold, pale grey, light blue, and green. What do the colours represent? Red: Physical disabilities Gold: Neurodivergence, including autism and ADHD White: Invisible and undiagnosed disabilities Blue: Mental illnesses Green: Sensory disabilities The coloured stripes are placed diagonally across the flag to illustrate how disabled people cut across barriers in society. This Disability Pride Month, let’s take concrete steps to celebrate and support the disability community. By embracing disability pride, we not only acknowledge the integral role that disabilities play in shaping identities but also pave the path for a more inclusive and compassionate society. We celebrate the progress made and recognise the work still needed to ensure true equality and acceptance for everyone. Much much relate? Share it now! WhatsApp Facebook X (Twitter) LinkedIn Copy link < Back SHORTS

Michaela Mabinty DePrince’s fight for inclusion and representation lives on < Back Disability, Gender, News Black ballerina with Vitiligo who shattered racial bias dies at 29 Michaela Mabinty DePrince’s fight for inclusion and representation lives on MMS Staff 14 Sept 2024 2-min read Internationally renowned Black ballerina, Michaela Mabinty DePrince, has passed away at the age of 29. Her life was one of incredible strength and resilience, from surviving a brutal civil war in Sierra Leone to becoming a leading voice for diversity in ballet. Born in 1995, Michaela lost both of her parents during Sierra Leone’s civil war. She was sent to an orphanage where she faced further rejection due to her vitiligo, a condition that caused patches of her skin to lose colour. The staff at the orphanage treated her cruelly, calling her “the devil’s child” and placing her last in line for food and clothes. At the age of four, Michaela was adopted by an American family, and her life changed. She had always dreamed of becoming a ballerina after seeing a picture of one in a magazine. With her adoptive parents’ support, she started pursuing that dream. But the path was far from easy. As a Black ballerina, Michaela faced racism and rejection in a predominantly white industry. She was once told that her skin colour didn’t belong in ballet. Despite these obstacles, Michaela broke through. She trained at prestigious ballet schools and danced with world-renowned companies like the Dutch National Ballet and the Boston Ballet. She became a trailblazer, one of the few Black dancers to reach such heights in the ballet world. Throughout her career, Michaela spoke openly about the lack of diversity in ballet and the challenges faced by Black dancers. And her advocacy went beyond ballet. She was committed to helping children affected by war, supporting organisations like War Child. Michaela also dreamed of opening a free arts school in Sierra Leone, hoping to give back to the country where her story began. Michaela DePrince’s passing is a huge loss, not just to ballet but to everyone inspired by her journey. Her life was a reminder of the barriers that still exist for marginalised people, and her legacy will continue to inspire those fighting for a more inclusive world. Much much relate? Share it now! WhatsApp Facebook X (Twitter) LinkedIn Copy link < Back SHORTS

Sophie Morgan’s film - Fight to Fly - to come out on Channel 4 July 22 < Back Disability, News, Media New documentary on issues faced by disabled air travellers Sophie Morgan’s film - Fight to Fly - to come out on Channel 4 July 22 MMS Staff 19 Jul 2024 2-min read British TV presenter Sophie Morgan’s documentary on the issues faced by disabled people - particularly those with restricted mobility - when travelling by flights is set to release July 22 at 9 pm BST on Channel 4. The film - chronicling the experiences of multiple disabled travellers - follows Morgan as she campaigns for more awareness and sensitivity toward disabled people using mobility devices such as wheelchairs to travel by air. Morgan’s mission to make air travel equitable for all started early last year when, on a flight back from USA to the UK, her carrier damaged her wheelchair. At the time, her social media posts about the incident went viral , prompting her to start a campaign that is now called Rights On Flights. Asked what kinds of problems disabled people often face on flights, Morgan said: “It starts from the minute you book: sometimes airlines can be really difficult and refuse you travel if your wheelchair is a certain height, or a certain width, or over a certain weight, or if your battery is a certain size. And that's if the website is particularly accessible digitally anyway — this is not just about wheelchair users, there are problems across the board for all types of people, with different types of disabilities.” While the documentary itself chronicles experiences ranging all the way from people having to drag themselves to the aircraft toilet to others having to starve and dehydrate themselves while on board to yet others whose mobility aids have suffered damage. Morgan points out that it’s not even necessarily only the fault of the staff being under-trained - the entire system is, in fact, ableist. India, too, is fighting the good fight against ableism in air travel. Last year, on a flight to Mumbai from Delhi, activist Virali Modi was left behind in an aeroplane for almost 40 minutes after all other passengers had deplaned. The campaign has seen Morgan visit Downing Street as well as the White House, calling for better legislation to ensure a better air travel experience for people with disabilities. As for the documentary, it covers the campaign from the beginning, the reason for its establishment, Morgan’s aims and goals, as well as the harrowing journeys of other wheelchair users, who have gone undercover and filmed their experiences for the purpose of the film. “I'm delighted that (the campaign) was successful, but I'm gutted that it happened — it's quite shocking what we uncover, but in many ways it's not shocking. Every time these stories come out, the non-disabled community kind of go 'oh my gosh, that is shocking, I had no idea' and we're like 'we're trying to tell you! This happens to us all the time!’ Morgan said. Ever since starting the campaign, Morgan adds, some airlines have taken note while others still haven’t. “I hope the airline industry sits up and takes notice, I hope they realise that we aren't going anywhere, that they have to meet the problems head-on. There's a real opportunity here for an airline to lead the way and be better, and I can't wait for that airline to really step up and embrace that.” Much much relate? Share it now! WhatsApp Facebook X (Twitter) LinkedIn Copy link < Back SHORTS

Trans youth representation: what this means for the industry < Back LGBTQIA+, Media, News Disney pulls transgender storyline from Pixar’s ‘Win or Lose’ Trans youth representation: what this means for the industry MMS Staff 19 Dec 2024 3-min read Disney has sparked significant backlash after deciding to remove a transgender storyline from Pixar’s much-anticipated animated series Win or Lose, set to debut on Disney+ in February 2025. The series, centered on a middle school softball team named the Pickles, tells the stories of its players, parents, coaches, and umpires in the lead-up to their championship game. However, The Hollywood Reporter revealed that a planned transgender character arc has been removed from one of the episodes. The transgender storyline’s removal particularly affected Chanel Stewart, the actress who voices the character. Stewart, now 18, was 14 when she landed the role after responding to Pixar’s casting call for an authentic transgender actress. For Stewart, this was not just another gig but a deeply personal opportunity to bring visibility to transgender teens. “I was exactly what they wanted to a T, and that’s why it felt so right,” Stewart said, recounting how excited she was to authentically portray a transgender teenage girl. “The thought of authentically portraying a transgender teenage girl made me really happy. I wanted to make this for transgender kids like me.” Disney confirmed the decision, saying, “When it comes to animated content for a younger audience, we recognize that many parents would prefer to discuss certain subjects with their children on their own terms and timeline.” While the character remains in the show, all references to gender identity were removed, reducing the character to a cisgender girl. Stewart said she was told by Disney that her character would still feature heavily but without any transgender identity. “It’s just that my character would now be a cis girl, a straight cis girl,” Stewart shared. Keisha Stewart, Chanel’s mother, expressed her disappointment, saying, “It was upsetting because my daughter is transgender, and this is her life. Everyone deserves to be recognized. And it felt like just another setback for the LGBTQ community.” She highlighted the importance of representation for transgender youth navigating their identities in a world where visibility and understanding remain scarce. This isn’t the first time Disney has faced criticism over LGBTQ+ representation. In recent years, the company has been scrutinized for its handling of queer storylines in animated projects. From the same-gender kiss in Lightyear to controversy surrounding Moon Girl and Devil Dinosaur, LGBTQ+ content in Disney productions has often faced backlash and revisions, particularly when aimed at younger audiences. Despite these challenges, Disney has featured queer narratives in its more adult-focused offerings, including Pose, Fire Island, and Next Goal Wins. However, the removal of the transgender storyline from Win or Lose underscores the studio’s struggle to balance inclusivity with perceived audience sensitivities. Despite the setback, Stewart remains proud of her groundbreaking role, calling it “an honor” to be part of queer history. “Trans stories matter, and they deserve to be heard,” she said, vowing to continue advocating for visibility and representation. Disney’s decision has reignited debates about LGBTQ+ erasure in mainstream media. As gender identity remains a divisive topic, particularly in the U.S., this incident highlights the ongoing challenges faced by marginalized communities striving for authentic representation. Win or Lose will premiere on February 19, 2025, featuring Will Forte as the voice of Coach Dan. Much much relate? Share it now! WhatsApp Facebook X (Twitter) LinkedIn Copy link < Back SHORTS

Seeing their children struggle with loneliness, Gopika Kapoor & Moneisha Gandhi launched Buddy Up < Back Disability, Neurodiversity, Parenting These moms have built a friendship app for disabled people & their caregivers Seeing their children struggle with loneliness, Gopika Kapoor & Moneisha Gandhi launched Buddy Up Swara Swami 15 Oct 2024 12-min read Loneliness and social isolation are common yet often overlooked struggles for people with disabilities and their caregivers. The lack of accessible opportunities for forming friendships leaves many in the disability community feeling disconnected. This isolation can have a profound impact on emotional well-being, making the need for supportive, inclusive spaces even more critical. At Much Much Spectrum, we set out to explore this pressing issue by speaking with the co-founders of Buddy Up, an innovative app designed to bridge this gap. In an exclusive interview, Gopika Kapoor and Moneisha Gandhi, both mothers to young people with disabilities, share how their personal experiences of loneliness inspired them to create an app that promises to connect people with disabilities and their caregivers, offering them a platform to find meaningful friendships and support networks. Swara: Can you both please introduce yourself? Gopika (she/ her): My name is Gopika Kapoor. I am a neurodiversity consultant and an author. I'm also a counsellor and one of the co-founders of Buddy Up along with Moneisha. Moneisha (she/ her): I'm Moneisha, the second co-founder of Buddy Up. For many years I ran and managed an embroidery export company but that closed during the Covid lockdown. I'm also mom to a 19-year-old called Mihaan who has Down Syndrome. I volunteer at the Ummeed Parent Resource Centre and was involved at my son's school helping in the inclusion space there. Swara: What inspired you both to create the Buddy Up app and how did your personal experiences as mothers of children with disabilities influence this? Moneisha: So my son is one of those very social characters, and he was at a school and I was kind of getting a little worried when he was getting into his teenage years about long-term friendships because I felt like the other kids in the school were all going to go off in different directions. So I actively started looking for friends for him. I didn't want it to come to a point where he would suddenly be alone but I was finding it hard to find friends that he could relate to and I wished there was an app like this. Luckily for us, we met through a common friend - Dr Vibha Krishnamurthy - who founded Ummeed Child Development Center. She said, “Hey, you know, why don't you try meeting?” The two boys (Vir and Mihaan) met and it was like magic. They just got on really well. We got them together and it was really fantastic and they've known each other now for about three years. We realised that having this sort of connection is very, very powerful. We kind of also thought how amazing it would be for other people to have some way of reaching out to others in the community to make those connections, and that was the genesis of the Buddy Up idea. Gopika: So for my part, you know, Vir - my son - being on the spectrum, I really struggled to find friends for him, friends who would be like him, friends who could do the same things that he could do and whom he could relate with. I remember I was told when I used to go for therapy at Ummeed, to do planned playdates and I used to hate those because it would stress me out so much because if it was a neurotypical child they would end up playing with Vir's twin sister Gayatri, who is neurotypical, and Vir would be in one corner playing on his own. If it was an autistic kid or someone within the disability community, then I would be dealing with two kids doing this very kind of thing. So I just gave up on these playdates and I just figured, okay, you know, we'll figure it out as it goes on. But as he got older, we would try to compensate for his lack of friends, but as parents, you're no compensation for a teenage boy. He'd rather be out with his friends than hanging out with his parents. And so I was very stressed that in two years, my daughter would be leaving for college and what would he do because she's his twin sister and they've been together from the womb. Enter Mihaan, and Vir and him just chilled. And the amazing thing is that I think Moneisha had been looking for friends for Mihaan in the Down Syndrome community. I had been looking for friends for Vir in the autism community. Moneisha: And we realised after they met, one, that it was hugely life-changing and two, that having a friend is therapeutic. Gopika: Moneisha introduced me to this bootcamp that both the boys are part of. They've got a whole bunch of friends there. And then I told her Vir is going to join something called Skill Shakti. So she said, I'm going to apply for Mihaan. And then things rolled from there. Moneisha: I think no place existed where you could meet. You have to be lucky to find someone within your circle. I think the idea of this app was really to open up that whole circle of possibility. You could now potentially have a whole, much wider circle to choose a friend from. You're not going to be friends with the first person you meet. Gopika: And you're not going to want to hang out with that same person all the time. You want to have a variety of people in your life. Moneisha: I'm always looking at the app, like who's their age, who kind of shares similar interests to them that we can sort of reach out to via the app. There's a loneliness epidemic out there. There are so many people that are just alone, sad, because they don't have that connection. And I think this is like a mode of trying to find those people that could potentially be those important people in your life. Swara: From your perspective, what's the biggest social challenge faced by people with disabilities and their caregivers in India? And how does Buddy Up aim to address these issues? Moneisha: With people with disabilities in lots of different families, I think the stigma they face, other people don't want to hang out with their kids. Parents with Down Syndrome come and tell us that they really feel isolated, the kids and the parents. So here is a possibility to reach out to people that share your experience and know exactly what you've been through and therefore are much more likely to form a deep connection with you because of a shared experience. Gopika: I'll talk from the perspective of autism. What happens is, parents, when they have an autistic child, they don't know how this child is going to behave. So they cut themselves off. They don't go to birthday parties. They don't go to weddings. They don't go to the mall. They don't go to the beach. They don't go to family dinners and hang out, hang out with their friends. Very few do. If they find a caretaker, they will leave the child with them, but otherwise invariably it will be one parent going and the other one sitting at home, usually the mom sitting at home with the child. And it becomes very difficult. There's nobody to understand how you feel because even though you may be very close to your parents, your siblings, your friends, that exact experience that you're going through is not going to be understood by anybody because they are not living your life as a caregiver. For a person with a disability, same thing. They are not living your life. So what the app does is it really attempts to bring together not only people with disabilities, but also caregivers. And so you will be connected with another caregiver. Now, whether your child may be two, that person's child may be 20. It doesn't matter, but you can connect with the other caregiver, talk to them, talk about experiences that you've shared. You can talk about resources or just whatever you want to do. You can create that friendship based on a shared experience. So the app gives you that option as well. Moneisha: You can read a profile. If someone you feel like they might be somebody that you connect with, you can send them a friend request, you can talk about whatever you need to talk to them about. So I think it just opens up possibilities, different people that you may not have met in your immediate circles. I think that was really the idea. Gopika: If you are, say, limited by a mobility condition, you can't get out of the house, or if you just don't want to be around people, but at the same time you want some sort of connection, where do you go that is a safe space? You may not be able to find those if you're older, you may not be able to find those connections on Tinder or Hinge or something like that. There is always that safety aspect. If your child is younger, Facebook, Instagram may not be the right kind of place. And so really, where do you go? So this gives you the option of also having an online friendship. You can look for online friends only, in which case only those people will show up and you can chat with them on the app. We offer a one-minute free video call, which is to ascertain the identity of the person who you're chatting with to make sure they are who they say they are. And you can keep chatting with them on the app without revealing your WhatsApp number, phone number, address. So you can stay on the app and keep chatting with them, and just take it from there. Swara: Can you walk us through some of the key features of Buddy Up? How does the app specifically cater to the needs of both individuals with disabilities and their caregivers? Moneisha: One of the things that we've worked on is accessibility. We did a lot of testing with the visually impaired community. We also tested it with people who had other disabilities. We got their feedback and some of the things that they talked about were incorporated. We have a block feature. We thought that was really important to someone that is bothering you. Those sorts of focus groups kind of helped us to tailor the app to listen to what people are asking for. Gopika: You can basically search for friends on the basis of any kind of criteria. Age, gender, LGBTQIA+ identity, distance, etc. And we've spoken to lots of people in the disability community and introduced interests that they might have. For example, we were told that anime is a huge interest. So we included that. Somebody wrote to us and said please include writing. So we included that. Languages are another area of interest for a lot of people, especially on the autism spectrum. And then based on disability. If you don’t want to disclose your disability, you can leave it blank. Moneisha: I think that feature is very useful for parents and caregivers because if they're feeling like they need to connect with someone with a specific condition - like a rare genetic disorder - you can use that criteria to locate other parents who've been through a similar experience. Gopika: You can chat with the person, you can send them pictures, like a regular chat. Moneisha: And there’s also the option to keep details about yourself private, like your address, phone number, etc. Gopika: Also, your username doesn't have to reflect your name. Your photograph doesn't have to be uploaded. Swara: For parents receiving a new diagnosis for their child, peer support is crucial. How does the app help new parents find guidance, support and community? Gopika: Parents can reach out to other caregivers. They can find other caregivers, like themselves, they can connect with. If they want people from their locality, they can connect with them. If they want to talk to them online, they can connect with them there. Moneisha: We also have a list of resources, which we'll be constantly updating on the first page. Gopika: When you ask any parent of a child with a disability what they want for their child, they’ll say a solid friend. Other moms have seen the friendship Vir and Mihaan share, and the fact that as their moms we have created this app, they say they feel very happy when they see this. Moneisha: When we were looking at this space, we just felt like there are so many great organisations out there for therapy, good medical facilities, etc. But the one place in the disability space that seemed to be missing was the social one. And I think this app will make some progress towards helping resolve some of those issues. The biggest issue is like (these children) are just isolated. As a parent or a person with disability, to have that small group of people or that person who can actually be your go-to person, not somebody who does it out of a sense of charity. I remember when we got our diagnosis for Mihaan, Down Syndrome, it was just so stressful. But that whole cloud lifted the moment I met an older mom who had a son with Down syndrome. I met the family, I saw they were okay. And I heaved a sigh of relief, because I said, okay, they're fine. I'm going to be fine. And I'm hoping that's another sort of thing that comes out of these connections on the app. Swara: What are some of the most significant challenges you faced while developing and launching Buddy Up, especially when trying to meet the unique needs of your target audience? Gopika: We are not tech people. And the app is tech. So just understanding, learning, figuring out what platform to use, how to do it. I mean, the challenges continue. Moneisha: Right now, we bootstrapped this whole project. But there are things we need to think about. First we thought we’ll start with a really simple app. Then we said, it doesn't look great. It has to be an app, it has to have all the features, so we added features. We kept adding and at every stage I would say one thing, we've been very lucky, we also just had people that have put up their hand, come forward, helped us, people who've done stuff at cost, people who've done stuff pro bono. Gopika: And not necessarily people connected with disability. The design was created by somebody in Bangalore who works on app design and was on Moneisha's husband's school group. My nephew and one of his friends helped us with the hosting. So we really had help from a lot of people, and I just had to call Aditi and say listen we're doing this and she said we're doing an interview and I know the kind of reach Much Much Spectrum has. So I think that has really been quite wonderful. Swara: What is your long-term vision for Buddy Up? Moneisha: To increase the number of users is the first thing. We just want to have lots of people on it, and lots more choices. Gopika: We have also had people reaching out to us and saying please bring it to our country, somebody from Dubai, somebody from Singapore, somebody from London, from Canada saying why don't you start Buddy Up Canada? Let's just do India first then we'll think about going to Canada! Moneisha: We have to just take it one step at a time where each step is difficult so once we get over the first hurdle then we start thinking about the next one. Swara: I just want to add that what you both are doing with this app it's really great, because we have not had something like that. Especially as a child when I had no friends, I think the children nowadays will have some support now through this app. Gopika: Thank you, fingers crossed. Much much relate? Share it now! WhatsApp Facebook X (Twitter) LinkedIn Copy link < Back SHORTS

Thomas Dambo has built over 150 trolls using garbage to remind us what’s worth protecting < Back Climate, News This artist’s recycled trash sculptures help people reconnect with nature Thomas Dambo has built over 150 trolls using garbage to remind us what’s worth protecting MMS Staff 22 Apr 2025 3-min read In a world overwhelmed by waste and increasingly detached from the natural world, a tribe of towering wooden trolls is quietly reshaping how people think about trash and the planet. Their creator is a Danish artist with a deep love for stories, recycling, and the magic of the forest. Thomas Dambo, a self-described “garbage artist,” has built over 150 troll sculptures across the globe, from Puerto Rico’s coastlines to South Korea’s forests. His work blends sustainability, folklore, and public art into a striking new genre of environmental storytelling. As climate anxiety rises and natural spaces disappear, Dambo’s whimsical creatures are doing something few public campaigns have managed: pulling humans away from their screens and back into the wild. Building giants from what the world throws away Each troll is made almost entirely from reclaimed materials that include shipping pallets, fallen branches, construction debris, and lumber yard scraps. These aren’t modest pieces; Dambo’s trolls are colossal: many stretch over 30 feet tall, with arms the length of trucks and feet the size of bathtubs. And yet, despite their scale, they carry a quiet intimacy. They blend into the trees. They crouch behind bushes. They invite people to look up, to explore, to wonder. “It’s an advertising campaign for trash,” Dambo once said. “If people thought recycling was cool, we’d be less wasteful.” His most recent installation in Detroit Lakes, Minnesota features five trolls built in collaboration with the local nonprofit Project 412. The group commissioned the project to not only boost tourism but also spark a deeper sense of environmental connection within the community. Already, the “troll effect” — a term coined to describe the dramatic uptick in footfall wherever Dambo’s trolls appear — is in motion. In Coastal Maine, where five of Dambo’s trolls arrived at the botanical gardens in 2021, annual visitors jumped from 100,000 to over 340,000. The increase in visitors directly enabled the gardens to invest more heavily in local conservation efforts, particularly in protecting native trees. “We were hardly doing any of that before the trolls arrived,” said Gretchen Ostherr, CEO of the Coastal Maine Botanical Gardens. A global movement rooted in local magic Each troll is part sculpture, part story. Dambo writes fairy tales for each of his creations, giving them names like Ronny Funny Face or Barefoot Frida, and often weaving them into local histories, landscapes, and myths. In Puerto Rico, one of his earliest trolls — Hector the Protector — stood guard by the sea until Hurricane Maria tore him down. In 2019, Dambo returned to rebuild Hector, this time with a lantern in his hand to guide boats in a storm. But not all trolls have lived happily ever after. In Breckenridge, Colorado, a troll named Isak Heartstone had to be removed after overwhelming crowds and parking troubles strained the local infrastructure. Isak was later rebuilt on a more accessible trail, a reminder that even the most well-meaning public art must navigate the complicated relationship between access, preservation, and scale. And that, in many ways, is what Dambo’s trolls are about: complexity. They are gentle giants, yes, but they’re also quiet provocateurs, challenging our consumption patterns, our ideas about art, and our role in nature. Why this matters on Earth Day — and every day The global climate crisis isn’t just about emissions or melting ice caps. It’s also about disconnection. People cannot protect what they don’t love, and they can’t love what they no longer see or understand. In a time of digital overload and environmental detachment, Dambo’s trolls function like mythological messengers, bringing play, purpose, and pause back into the landscape. They offer a simple but urgent message: trash isn’t worthless. Nature isn’t optional. And wonder may be one of the most powerful tools we have in the fight for the planet. As the world marks another Earth Day, Dambo’s work is a poignant reminder that sustainability isn’t always about sacrifice. Sometimes, it’s about imagination. And sometimes, the path back to nature begins not with facts or fear, but with a troll. Much much relate? Share it now! WhatsApp Facebook X (Twitter) LinkedIn Copy link < Back SHORTS

Backlash against Yuvraj, Harbhajan, Raina for insensitive ‘Tauba Tauba’ rendition < Back Disability, News, Media Ex-cricketers criticised for ableist video mocking disabled people Backlash against Yuvraj, Harbhajan, Raina for insensitive ‘Tauba Tauba’ rendition MMS Staff 16 Jul 2024 3-min read Former Indian cricketers Yuvraj Singh, Harbhajan Singh, and Suresh Raina are facing backlash from disability rights groups for a video they recently featured in and shared on Instagram. In the video, the trio is seen trying to recreate actor Vicky Kaushal's viral dance step from the song ‘Tauba Tauba’ but with an ableist twist - they are walking with a limp instead of performing the step. The video was posted after the India Champions defeated the Pakistan Champions by five wickets in the World Championship of Legends final on July 13. In the video, the three cricketers are seen limping and holding their backs, apparently to depict the physical toll the matches took on their bodies. The caption read: “Body ki Tauba Tauba ho Gayi in 15 days legends cricket.. Every part of the body is sore. Straight competition to our brothers @vickykaushal09 @karanaujla our version of Tauba Tauba dance. What a SONG.” While it is reasonable that the former cricketers’ bodies were sore from the matches, starring in and putting up a video such as this one is derogatory, ableist, and downright offensive. The ex-cricketers’ actions show a lack of sensitivity and awareness about the experiences of people with disabilities, and perpetuate harmful stereotypes. As public figures and role models, they have a responsibility to be mindful of the impact their actions can have on their fans and society at large. Disability rights activists were quick to criticise the video as insensitive and derogatory. The National Platform for the Rights of the Disabled (NPRD) called it “totally disgraceful.” “No words are sufficient enough to condemn such behaviour especially when displayed by people considered national heroes. Such degrading actions only expose their total insensitivity and boorishness,” the NPRD said in a post on X. Aditi Gangrade, CCO of Much Much Spectrum, a Mumbai-based inclusive media company, said in a reel on their Instagram: “Dear Cricketers, you are the champions the masses look up to. You should be advocating for people with disabilities instead of mocking us.” Arman Ali, executive director of the non-profit National Centre for Promotion of Employment for Disabled People (NCPEDP), urged the Board of Control for Cricket in India (BCCI) to take note of the video. “Disgusting to see India’s top cricketers mocking disability. Shameful and atrocious behaviour from those who are idolised by masses. Shame on them. I urge BCCI to take immediate note of this,” Ali stated. Disability rights activist Dr Satendra Singh emphasised the responsibility of these cricketers as role models and highlighted the need for empathy, especially from Yuvraj Singh, who has battled cancer. “So many people are following them and they will follow these actions, so there needs to be sensitivity. They have no remorse and are making fun of people with disabilities,” Singh told PTI. A police complaint has been filed against Yuvraj Singh, Harbhajan Singh, Suresh Raina, and Gurkeerat Mann, accusing them of mocking people with disabilities. A police officer confirmed that the complaint was received and will be forwarded to the cyber cell for further investigation. Amidst the outrage, Harbhajan Singh issued an apology through his official X account, acknowledging the insensitivity. Sadly, the apology nowhere acknowledges the ableism perpetuated by the cricketers. This issue is not just a moral concern but also a legal imperative. It infringes upon Article 21 of the Indian Constitution, which guarantees every individual’s right to live with dignity. It also violates Section 92 of the Rights of Persons with Disabilities Act, 2016. Not to mention it goes against the guidelines established by the Supreme Court just last week for disability portrayals in visual media. “(Creative freedom)... cannot include the freedom to lampoon, stereotype, misrepresent or disparage those already marginalised,” the Supreme Court noted. For those who are wondering what's wrong with the video or why people might be taking offence to this, the video mocks the physical struggles and movements that many people with disabilities experience daily. It perpetuates harmful stereotypes and diminishes the lived experiences of individuals with disabilities. And it’s doubly harmful when influential public figures engage in such mockery because it normalises disrespect and insensitivity towards people with disabilities, and encourages the public to engage in such behaviour. This incident shows that there’s a critical need for sensitivity and respect towards individuals with disabilities, particularly from public figures and role models. It also underscores the necessity for social media platforms to enforce guidelines that prevent the dissemination of derogatory content. Much much relate? Share it now! WhatsApp Facebook X (Twitter) LinkedIn Copy link < Back SHORTS