Exploring the intersection of gender, sexuality, and neurodivergence where fluidity and individuality thrive < Back Neurodiversity, Gender, LGBTQIA+ Being atypical isn’t a deficit: My Neuroqueer identity Exploring the intersection of gender, sexuality, and neurodivergence where fluidity and individuality thrive Soumya Mishra 28 Jul 2024 5-min read A few years back when I attended a workshop, one of my fellow participants addressed me by “they” pronoun, and I felt incredibly seen at that moment. Up until then, I was internally struggling to accept the non-binary messiness of gender, even though growing up I have had plenty of instances when I felt like a square peg being forced into a round hole situation. When it comes to discourses around gender, sexuality or neurodivergence, we often come across the word “spectrum.” The idea behind “spectrum” is that it encompasses a range of understandings, views and opinions on these subjects. But what if, instead of a range, it was a vast universe where everyone could be whatever they wanted? Each individual is a unique star and can be their most authentic self here. That’s what the neuroqueer space means to me. My relationship with gender, sexuality and neurodivergence is deeply neuroqueer. The neuroqueer space is a radical space where non-conformist notions concerning gender, sexuality and neurodivergence are celebrated, which is in contrast to a world where cis-heteronormativity and neuronormativity are enforced. Being neurodivergent means seeing and interacting with the world in atypical ways. And since neurodivergence affects how I see and interact with the world, it has also shaped my understanding of gender and sexuality. Usually, gender identity is constructed from a neurotypical lens, completely disregarding neurodivergent perspectives. However, neurodivergent folx experience a queering of the mind. So neatly defined identity labels based on neurotypical standards such as “boy,” “girl,” “man” and “woman” mean differently to many of us. Even as an adult, there are parts of me that are more childlike than others around me. This entails how I experience and express my feelings, my innate curiosity or whimsical behaviour. And this has invited comments and infantilisation from those around me. For instance, I’m often told I seem much younger than my age because my behaviour doesn’t coincide with what is considered age-appropriate. So from my neuroqueer perspective, even the construction of cis-gender identity is complex, and sometimes, it is closer to the idea of queerness as it defies what is perceived as “normal.” Now, while I started using “she/ they” pronouns initially to be more inclusive and break the gender binary, overtime it has become more than that. “They” can be both singular and plural; it’s fluid. I’m an individual whose identity has been shaped by numerous experiences, which can be truly understood by understanding the context. To me, “she/ they” makes room for all that and more. So even though I’ve been socialised as a “woman,” there are moments when I feel the term does not encapsulate all my feelings. As neuroqueerness celebrates fluidity, it has given me the space to explore the idea of gender away from neurotypicality. In addition, by virtue of my asexuality, I experience little to no sexual attraction. But I’m romantically attracted towards two or more genders, which is atypical in this allonormative society that reinforces compulsory sexuality and heteronormativity. My asexuality requires no “fixing.” Like my neurodivergence, my asexuality, too, subverts the normative culture, but both of them are described in terms of “lacks.” While asexuality is commonly described as an absence of sexual attraction, neurodivergence is defined as having social impairments. But, being atypical isn’t a deficit. Feminist theorist Bell Hooks wrote: “‘Queer’ not as being about who you’re having sex with (that can be a dimension of it); but ‘queer’ as being about the self that is at odds with everything around it and that has to invent and create and find a place to speak and to thrive and to live.” Building on her argument around queerness, when queer theory and the neurodiversity paradigm inform one another, there is a further queering of the body and the mind. In this resulting transformative space, which is the neuroqueer space, normative understanding of gender, sexuality and neurodivergence can be challenged. My neuroqueer bodymind isn’t fixed or singular, nor does it exist in a vacuum. It has been shaped by numerous experiences and can only be understood by situating my experiences contextually. In their book Authoring Autism, M Remi Yergeau eloquently argues, “Neuroqueering signifies a generous and inter-bodily gesturing, one that postures beyond brains, bones, and dermis; one that waves in a plurality of identities, orientations, affective stances, and lived experiences, modes ranging from autism to deafness to trauma to asexuality.” Simply put, to me, neuroqueering is resisting neatly defined categories and creating a space where even the messier parts of myself can thrive without giving in to binaries. Neuroqueerness problematises neat identity labels, making room for fluidity and plurality of identities, orientations and lived experiences by disrupting cis-heteronormativity and neuronormativity as well as defying societal expectations around what is considered “normal” and “abnormal.” My lived experiences and the journey I’ve undertaken to reach here are complex and difficult to disentangle from one another. “Neuroqueer” is all-encompassing without restrictive labels and diagnoses. It’s a space where I can make sense of my neuroqueer bodymind, connect with folx who’ve similar lived realities, and be a part of a community to experience a sense of belongingness. Glossary: Neuroqueer - It is both an identity and a verb. An individual who diverges from dominant societal norms, considers them to be neurologically queer, rejecting normative ideas around gender, sexuality and neurocognitive functioning. Neuronormativity - Upholding a set of rules, values and ideas around neuro-cognitive functioning which suggest that certain types of behaviour are normal, while others are not. Cis-heteronormativity - The idea that being cis-gender and heterosexual is the norm and such people are superior in society. Neurotypicality - The state of not being associated with neurodivergent behaviours. Asexuality - A type of sexual orientation wherein people experience little to no sexual attraction towards others, but may or may not engage in sexual activity. Allonormative - The idea that all human beings experience sexual and romantic attraction, and that’s the norm. Soumya Mishra (she/ they) is a neuroqueer development sector professional with over 6 years of work experience, who is primarily interested in leveraging digital mediums to amplify marginalised voices, bridge existing gaps, promote inclusivity and accessibility. Their work and approaches are informed by their lived experiences. Building a community and fostering a sense of belongingness have been crucial in Soumya's work approach. As a personal project, they're also building a podcast — Atypical Dikkatein — to chronicle the stories of queer-disabled folx in India as these stories are often relegated to the margins. Follow Soumya on LinkedIn Much much relate? Share it now! WhatsApp Facebook X (Twitter) LinkedIn Copy link < Back SHORTS

Paramjeet Bisht of Uttarakhand practised his race walking only past 9 pm to avoid judgemental onlookers < Back News Youth ridiculed for ‘funny walking style’ represents India at Paris '24 Paramjeet Bisht of Uttarakhand practised his race walking only past 9 pm to avoid judgemental onlookers MMS Staff 3 Aug 2024 1-min read A 23-year-old resident of Uttarakhand - teased by the residents of his village for his ‘funny’ gait - represented India yesterday in the men’s final of the 20-kilometre walk at Paris Olympics 2024. On Thursday, Paramjeet Singh Bisht reportedly finished 37th in the 20 km men’s final where he took part alongside two other Indians - Vikash Singh and Akshdeep Singh. A native of Khalla village in Chamoli district Uttarakhand, Bisht used the roads of his village to practise for the event when they were secluded past 9 pm every day. He wanted to avoid the gaze of the other villagers, who ridiculed him for his ‘funny walking style,’ Bisht has said . “They would often laugh at me... as they were not aware it’s a globally recognised sport.” While Bisht clocked 1 hour, 23 minutes and 48 seconds in the finals, Singh crossed the finish line in 1 hour, 22 minutes and 36 seconds, and Akshdeep pulled out of the race around the 6-kilometre mark. Bisht presently holds the national record for the under-17 and under-19 men’s 5-kilometre walk events. In 2022, he joined the Indian Navy as a senior secondary recruit. “It was a great journey for me,” Bisht simply wrote on his Instagram after the race. Much much relate? Share it now! WhatsApp Facebook X (Twitter) LinkedIn Copy link < Back SHORTS

The global autistic community shares how they respond to dismissive and ableist comments < Back Community, Neurodiversity Best responses to - “But you don’t look autistic” The global autistic community shares how they respond to dismissive and ableist comments MMS Staff 8 Jun 2024 5-min read Have you ever disclosed your autism to someone, only to have them drill holes in your head with their eyes and give you the classic, "But you don't look autistic" refrain? Though seemingly harmless, this line is more than just a misunderstanding. It shows a deep lack of awareness about the vast spectrum of autistic experiences. For many autistic people, comments like these are hurtful. When our autism goes unrecognized, it leads to a lack of crucial support. We might struggle in social situations or sensory overload without receiving the help that can make a huge difference. Not to mention this also takes its toll on our mental health. Imagine constantly being told a core part of you isn't valid, or being asked to prove your neurodivergence. Makes you feel isolated, confused and even depressed. We've said before, we'll say it again - Autism is a neurological difference, not a physical appearance. Autistic people exist in all shapes, sizes, and personalities. So, the next time someone throws that outdated comment your way, be prepared to respond with confidence and a touch of humor! How? Read on - Our amazing community shared some fantastic responses to "But you don't look autistic". We've written their comments down alongside their Instagram profiles. Oh! I have detachable wings and left them at home today - @ alt.life .immycool Sorry, I'm sharing my autism with a friend right now, so it might be diluted - @charlielittlechild It's so clear to see if you know Autism - @jackie_steed Decides who?! - @karolincze That’s an inside thought Karen … - @aglaematl You don't look like a burden - @le_randomiseur How about now? hand flaps "maybe you can only see it under a black light? - @cantstanja Your observation skills are rather poor, dear. Might I suggest some glasses to help you see my autism? - @yagamilight3000 Do you want me to say “thanks”…? - @karolincze We can't all be Rain Man or the Good Doctor, Karen. - @olivia.shorthair And you don’t look ignorant but here we are - @emhope98 Alright so have you ever heard about specific interests? Mine is [followed by a five minute monologue about very precise information]. Do I look more autistic to you now? If not, you might question your own spectrum. - @lelune_akemi Yes I do! Whether you say I do or not I still do and it will never change! So go away! - @magically_made_photography Shall I flap my wings a bit for you? - @arcanadi You might want to learn what "invisible" meant, would you like a dictionary? - @lelune_akemi Here, try on my glasses. - @jadenikita1998 This is what I say, “Stop, Stop right there. I do not need you to tell me this. I love being autistic, it's so freeing. This diagnosis is a good thing, not a bad thing. I love you, but this isn't a good comment to say to me. Please be happy for me.” - @lightningdragon1 Oh darling, and you don't look like someone who understands the full spectrum of fabulousness! But here we are, defying expectations and slaying stereotypes, one sequin at a time! - @officialqueemo I put whatever object is closest and put it on my head, and then say "how about now?" 😅 - @ audhdantics Well of course not. You can’t see Autism. whispers it’s inside my brain! - @trainerhalsitemshop Is this due to my confidence or hotness levels being at least 137x higher than yours? - @eldritchvampireofthefaewild YOU CAN SEE ME?! - @ andie.ink Really? I must have left my 'Autistic' uniform at home - @booleanhunter AHA… my disguise is working” *walk away laughing evilly - @the_other_abby2007 Oh because I don’t make blunt statements? - @halicope You should see me on a full moon—all of my ‘tism bursts out in full force then. 🌙 - @joannareese7 Well you don’t look allistic but here we are - @neuronandrosepsych Well, I am and I am proud of it! - @revajain__ takes a bow - @infamousswfan That's not really the compliment you think it is - @anjalir283 No? Oh you do!" (Let them wonder for a bit) Then say "See, that's just as weird as saying I don't". - @babette_2000 That's just all the plastic surgery I had 🤣 - @meranaphi Well you don't look normal, but here we are - @ausomecharlie I don't have enough time or crayons to explain the impact of your comment - @monera_ooo I know you're trying to be kind, but it's not where you can see it... it's in my brain! - @themindofmariavivienne I have horns which I file everyday before I leave - @theboywhogrewupasanaspie 1. What am I supposed to look like? 2. In-depth explanation of what masking is 3. Horror story about ABA, if applicable 4. Well you don’t look like a jerk, but here we are. 5. Because I’m not a six-year-old boy? Shocking. /s 6. Yes I do, you just don’t know what you’re looking at. 7. I literally only told you because you caught me doing X autistic thing. 8. That’s not a compliment. 9. Are you sure? start stimming and staring off into space 10. Well you don’t look neurotypical! See how weird that sounds? 11. Sorry, I left my Rain Man costume at home. - @aureliaundertheradar I don't get it. Please explain." (Same as the response to racist/sexist/etc 'jokes') - @creatingwhilelearning But do I SMELL autistic?” Always confuses the hell out of them. Some people actually then say “Ah I see what you mean!” as in, it’s as ridiculous as saying autistic people all smell a certain way. Others don’t get it. So I let them continue to be baffled 💅🏽 - @sniffyjenkins you don't look stupid… - @hollylaike I show true colours only during full moon - @preeti.sharma_27 Hang on, let me just do some autism for you - @comfaclothing I'm undercover. - @kotoku_denjiro I put on the invisible cloak! - @manishachandini You don’t look rude either, but I guess we can’t judge a book by its cover - @thealyssaproject Shit, I must be overdue for my autism-causing vaccine booster - @wdc_nathan Laugh very loudly and leave - @purramids I was wondering if the new mask was working. Turns out it works both ways. You can’t tell I’m autistic and I can’t tell how much of your brain you have left. - @lauraliteatime Remember, the best response depends on the situation and your comfort level. You are autistic, and that's perfectly okay! Some final thoughts: Don't feel obligated to justify your diagnosis (whether you have one or not cuz self-diagnosis is obv valid) Educate politely, but don't feel like you have to be a teacher Embrace your individuality. Being autistic is a strength, not a weakness Let's break down the stereotypes and celebrate the beautiful diversity of the autistic community. With a little understanding and humour, we can create a more inclusive world As always, we'd love to hear from you. Share your favorite responses to "But you don't look autistic" in the comments below. Check out the original post here . Remember, if anyone ever tells you they can't see your autism, you can always tell them you left your invisibility cloak at home. 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Thought about checking in on your dad’s mental health? We give you a starting point < Back Health, Parenting The best gift idea for Father's Day you wouldn’t wanna miss Thought about checking in on your dad’s mental health? We give you a starting point MMS Staff 15 Jun 2024 5-min read Father's Day is an opportunity to show appreciation and love for the fathers and father figures in our lives. While traditional gifts like ties, grooming kits, or tools are always appreciated, this year consider giving a gift that could have a lasting impact: the gift of health and mental well-being. Mental health challenges are more common than many realise. As per Statista, as of October 2021, 33 percent of men had depression as compared to women with 31 percent during the same time period. Initiating a conversation about mental health with your dad can be one of the most significant gifts you give. Consider starting a dialogue that addresses the stigma and acknowledges common issues like trauma and provides a supportive space. A new Verywell Mind and Parents survey has found that 75% of dads are looking for more mental health support. Here’s why protecting men’s health is so important First, create a non-judgmental environment where your dad feels safe to express his feelings and share his experiences. Listen patiently, respond with empathy, and remind him that his feelings are valid. Let your dad know that it's not just okay but appreciated to talk about and seek help for mental health. To have a meaningful conversation about health and mental health with your dad, approach the topic with sensitivity, understanding, and respect for cultural nuances. Here’s an expanded guide on how to navigate this important dialogue: Understanding cultural context Be mindful of cultural differences: Recognize that in many families, topics like mental health are not commonly discussed openly due to cultural stigma and misconceptions. Before initiating the conversation, consider how your dad has traditionally viewed mental health and prepare to address these views compassionately. Educate yourself: Equip yourself with knowledge about mental health issues, symptoms, and resources. This information will help you provide factual insights and dispel common myths, making the conversation more informative and less opinion-based. Initiating the conversation Choose an appropriate setting: Pick a moment when both of you are relaxed and have some privacy, such as after a meal or during a quiet evening at home. Avoid times when he is stressed or preoccupied with work or other responsibilities. A calm and comfortable setting can make the conversation more productive. Start with a neutral topic: Start with a broader discussion about physical health, which might be less sensitive. You could bring up topics like diet, exercise, or routine check-ups. Here’s a script: “Dad, I’ve been reading about how important regular health check-ups are as we get older. When was the last time you had a check-up?” Make the conversation relatable: Discuss the health or mental health story of a celebrity, public figure, someone else he might be familiar with, or something that recently appeared in the news or media. This can segue into a broader health discussion. Deepening the discussion Share personal observations and experiences: Gently make conversation more personal by sharing your own experiences with health issues, be it physical or mental. This can make the topic feel more relatable and less intimidating. Here’s a script: “I’ve noticed I feel a lot better when I talk about my stresses. It’s not always easy to open up, but it helps me manage my stress. Have you ever felt something similar?” Introduce mental health gradually: Frame mental health as an integral part of overall well-being. Discuss how mental and emotional health impacts physical health and everyday life, drawing parallels to common physical health problems that are more frequently discussed and accepted. Mention stories of public figures or characters from films or TV shows that dealt with health issues, including mental health. This can make the topic more relatable, less intimidating, and also might help break the stigma around certain health conditions. Discuss trauma and generational patterns: Introduce the concept of trauma, including generational trauma, which may not be immediately apparent or discussed within families. Approach this topic gently and with understanding rather than assigning blame. Here’s a script: "I've been learning about how experiences and habits can be passed down through generations, affecting how we handle stress or conflict. It might help us understand some of the challenges we face as a family." Mention specific incidents or symptoms: Carefully bring up any behaviours or symptoms you've noticed that may indicate mental health struggles. Make sure to approach this part of the conversation with sensitivity and without judgement. Here’s a script: “I've noticed sometimes when things get overwhelming, you tend to withdraw and isolate yourself. I read that it can be a sign of anxiety. It’s something that many of us might not even realise we're doing.” Draw connections between actions and emotions: Help your dad make connections between his behaviours and what they might signify about his emotional state. This can provide him with insights into his own feelings and offer him the language to express these emotions: “When we talk about being anxious and how it leads to shutting down or isolating, it’s really about noticing how our bodies and minds react to stress. Understanding this can help us find better ways to cope.” Offer tools for self-reflection: Suggest simple ways in which your dad can reflect on his feelings and behaviours. This might include journaling, mindfulness practices, or even engaging in regular conversations with you or a therapist. Addressing stigma, misconceptions, and toxic masculinity Discuss cultural stigma: Address the cultural stigmas surrounding mental health openly but sensitively. Here’s a script: “I know it’s often not seen as okay to talk about mental health, but I think it’s really important for us to be open about it. It affects so many people and talking can really help.” Provide information and examples: Through examples, discuss the benefits of mental health awareness and care. Give examples of people who sought help and how their lives changed. Discuss the pressure of toxic masculinity: Talk about the societal expectations on men to appear strong and detached, and how this can be a barrier to mental health discussions. Here’s a script: “I’ve noticed that often, our society expects men to not express their feelings openly, considering it a weakness. But I believe being able to share what we feel is actually a sign of strength.” Discussing action and support Encourage your dad to take small, manageable steps towards improving his mental health. This could look like consulting a professional, getting in a workout, meditation, mindfulness, therapy, or even attending a workshop or seminar on mental wellness. Provide information about local health professionals, credible websites that offer information, and support groups. Offer to help him reach out to these resources if he shows interest. Maintaining an ongoing dialogue Reinforce your support throughout the conversation. Here’s a script: “I really appreciate you taking the time to talk about this with me. I’m here for you, and I think it’s great for us to keep this communication open.” Don’t let this conversation be a one-time event. Check in regularly about what was discussed, offer additional support, and share any new information you come across. This ongoing dialogue will help normalise the discussion of health and mental health in your family. Much much relate? Share it now! WhatsApp Facebook X (Twitter) LinkedIn Copy link < Back SHORTS

Tesla CEO made a sarcastic tweet about CrowdStrike’s partnership with global inclusion company < Back Work, News Musk's controversial claim: DEI hiring responsible for IT outage Tesla CEO made a sarcastic tweet about CrowdStrike’s partnership with global inclusion company MMS Staff 21 Jul 2024 1-min read While much of the world was reeling from the global IT outage over Thursday and Friday, X CEO Elon Musk did not miss a chance to use the opportunity to take yet another potshot at DEI hiring. American cybersecurity firm CrowdStrike, which provides cloud workload protection and endpoint security, threat intelligence, and cyberattack response services, was responsible for one of the biggest IT outages in history on Friday, affecting 8.5 million Windows devices, when an update to one of its applications, Falcon, went live with a coding error built in. CrowdStrike has raised millions in funding from Silicon Valley, employs thousands from around the globe, and reportedly services 538 out of the Fortune 1000 companies. Plus they're also big on DEI hiring. CrowdStrike is a Gold Partner of Bright Network's Diversity, Equity, Inclusion and Belonging panel. Bright Network, a media tech platform, connects graduates from various backgrounds with suitable employers. And as part of this partnership, CrowdStrike says they're committed to creating an equitable and inclusive workplace. On Friday, following news about the outage, Elon Musk replied to a 2-year-old tweet by CrowdStrike about their association with Bright Network. In it, he simply said: "Not very 'bright' right now, is it?" The replies to his tweet, too, were largely in support of his skewed stance on the matter. DEI initiatives at various US-based companies have recently seen a pushback from upper management, with Tesla reportedly dropping language referencing diversity from its annual shareholder report earlier this year. Microsoft, too, recently laid off a team that was devoted to diversity, equity & inclusion. Shortly after that, tractor company John Deere announced they would do away with nearly all their DEI policies in favour of a quality-based workplace. Other companies who have recently either completely eliminated or reduced the size of their DEI teams include Zoom, Snap, Google, and Meta. Much much relate? Share it now! WhatsApp Facebook X (Twitter) LinkedIn Copy link < Back SHORTS

This Pride month, our community reflects on embracing both neurodivergence and queerness < Back Community, Neurodiversity, LGBTQIA+ The significance of Pride for neurodivergent LGBTQIA people This Pride month, our community reflects on embracing both neurodivergence and queerness MMS Staff 21 Jun 2024 3-min read Every June, Pride Month celebrates the diversity and strength of the LGBTQIA+ community. But within this collective coming together, it's important to remember that Pride could mean different things for different people. The essence of Pride is the diverse voices and lived experiences it represents and stands by, particularly for those at the intersections of multiple identities — such as neurodivergence, disability and LGBTQIA+. To fully honour the spirit of Pride, we need to embrace an intersectional approach that acknowledges and addresses the varied and complex realities of the entire community. And so we asked our community to share what Pride means to them, as neurodivergent and LGBTQIA+ folx. Here’s what #MuchMuchSays : Embracing my neurodivergence and queerness. Unmasking with people who feel like home! 💖 Saving my spoons by not engaging with people who are judgy, ableist or dull my sparkle ✨ - @aditigangrade_ Learning how both these parts of me overlap and create an unique experience for me. Finding a community with more neuro-queer folx. Trying to understand ways to better support myself in allistic spaces. - @ usri.be _ing In theory, I 💯 support everything Pride stands for. I’m queer, nonbinary and autistic. Neuroqueer is also how I describe myself. I advocate for neurodivergent LGBTQ+ people in my job, and I live the values of Pride year-round. But I live in San Antonio, Texas, where Pride is celebrated outdoors in the 100 degree F summer heat. That heat is dangerous for me because of my fibromyalgia and because of the meds I take. Even when the parade starts at 9 pm, it usually hasn’t cooled off that much. - @stardust_silkys Embracing yourself and everyone for who they are. Love my autism and my LGBTQ+ identity. Love has no limits. - @_irigeorge_iridizontas Celebrating love with understanding inclusive people (I'm in a straight marriage, but I love love and it should always be celebrated!). Showing my respect to those who have suffered from discrimination just for wanting to be loved and understood x - @debworth88 There are lots of ways of existing as a happy healthy human that isn’t the standard path society tells us are the norm - @peachnpumpkin Being actually included by queer groups 🥰🥰🥰 - @yagamilight3000 As a straight and cisgendered autistic man, I feel connected to other people who I think are also neurodivergent. I believe that the areas of the brain where sexual orientation and gender identity exist are their own distinct neurotypes. When someone isn’t straight or cisgender, those neurotype ares are the result of neurodivergent brain structures. While I don’t have the experiential empathy of being someone of the LGBTQIA+, I share a more generalized experience of not being what everyone wanted me to be and being misunderstood throughout my life; it’s from this that I can draw up empathy for LGBTQIA+ people. The must be treated with dignity, respect, compassion, understanding and visibility. - @bradcotter002 A proof that it is NOT illegal or “sinful” to love sby of your own gender or both!! 🥳🍾🎊🎉🏳️🌈💜💙 #itsokaytobegay 😎🌈 - @mariksen Rainbows and parties 🌈 🌈🌈😂 I don’t need a special month to live the “pride lifestyle”. - @_katbls_ Almost all of my neurospicy friends are queer.. theyre inextricably linked. There is pride in accepting our neurodivergence and our sexuality and gender identities. Its just another thing to celebrate and be proud of. To stand up for and speak out about. Let our voices be heard - @hanami_dango_ Pride is more than a celebration; it's a pivotal moment of visibility and acceptance for those who often navigate multiple layers of marginalisation. By listening to the voices of the neurodivergent LGBTQIA+ community and implementing inclusive practices, we can ensure that Pride is an empowering experience for everyone involved. PS: Our Community series stories are unedited for grammar or spelling, and posted as received on our socials. The original comments can be found on our Instagram . Much much relate? Share it now! WhatsApp Facebook X (Twitter) LinkedIn Copy link < Back SHORTS

The Super Mario Bros actor in an open letter has urged for diverse representation at the Emmys < Back News Actor John Leguizamo urges TV Academy for inclusive representation The Super Mario Bros actor in an open letter has urged for diverse representation at the Emmys MMS Staff 12 Jun 2024 2-min read Emmy-winning actor John Leguizamo has issued an appeal to the Television Academy through an open letter published in The New York Times, urging for increased representation of diverse talents at the Primetime Emmy Awards. As the organisation behind the revered Primetime Emmy Awards, the Academy has a pivotal role to play in shaping perceptions of inclusivity and representation in media. Leguizamo, not one to shy away from advocacy, leveraged not only the printed word but also the digital sphere to amplify his call. Sharing images of the letter on social media, he tagged his contemporaries including Whoopi Goldberg, Anya Taylor-Joy, Missy Elliott, and George Takei as well as streaming platform Netflix in a bid to garner wide-reaching support. Highlighting discrepancies In his social media post accompanying the letter, Leguizamo points out a stark disparity: “White people are only 58.9% of the population but overrepresented in top positions across the board.” He notes the disproportionate influence this group holds in critical sectors such as technology, banking, and entertainment, underscoring his argument with the need for an industry that reflects the true demographic makeup of the country. “America is better when it is inclusive. It is more profitable. It is more creative!” he states. Challenging the status quo In his letter, Leguizamo urges the entertainment industry to move beyond superficial commitments to diversity and inclusivity. He writes, “Dear Hollywood, please let this be the year we finally embrace change. The year we truly find equity and see artists of colour represented across not just one category but ALL categories.” He critiques the industry's reluctance to translate the rhetoric of diversity into real action, highlighting the excellence of hundreds of artists of colour who are often overlooked due to systemic biases. An opportunity for real change The timing of Leguizamo’s letter aligns with the upcoming 76th Primetime Emmy Awards scheduled to air September 15 on ABC. This also gives an opportunity for the Television Academy to respond to the growing demands for equity and representation. Inspiring future generations Leguizamo concludes his letter with a forward-looking message, hoping to inspire future generations of minority and underrepresented artists and imagining a world where these artists can see themselves reflected on the Emmy stage: “If they can, maybe I can, too.” For now, all eyes are on the Academy to see how it responds to Leguizamo's call for change. His efforts have the potential to catalyse a significant shift in how talent is recognised and celebrated, paving the way for a media environment that reflects its diverse audience. Much much relate? Share it now! WhatsApp Facebook X (Twitter) LinkedIn Copy link < Back SHORTS

From begging to coaching: Shabana’s role in shaping her daughter’s kickboxing dream < Back LGBTQIA+, Parenting, News Trans mom raises adopted daughter to be gold-winning kickboxer From begging to coaching: Shabana’s role in shaping her daughter’s kickboxing dream MMS Staff 6 Oct 2024 2-min read Meet Shabana, a 65-year-old transgender woman from Mysuru, India who went from begging on the streets to raising her adopted daughter, Bibi Fathima, into a gold-medal-winning kickboxer. Here’s the real story behind how they made it happen. Years ago, Shabana faced a lot of challenges. Surviving on the streets of Mysuru, her life was tough. Then, when her cousin abandoned four daughters, Shabana made a decision that would change everything — she adopted them, despite having almost nothing herself. One of those girls was Bibi Fathima, who had an unusual passion: kickboxing. At just 12, Fathima was determined to pursue her passion, even breaking open her piggy bank to enroll at a local kickboxing academy. Shabana, despite her limited means, supported her every step of the way. What started as a dream turned into a serious pursuit. Training hard every day, Fathima’s talent quickly caught the eye of her coaches. And it wasn’t long before the medals started rolling in. She’s now racked up 23 medals in various district, state, and national competitions. Her latest win is a gold medal at the 16th Karnataka State Kickboxing Championship. Fathima isn’t stopping at state competitions. She’s gearing up for even bigger tournaments in 2025, with plans to take on the national and international kickboxing scene. Shabana, always by her side, is ready to support her through whatever comes next. Fathima’s goals are clear; she’s already dreaming of one day becoming a coach herself. This mother-daughter duo is already making waves, and they’re not slowing down anytime soon. Much much relate? Share it now! WhatsApp Facebook X (Twitter) LinkedIn Copy link < Back SHORTS

A simple guide to understanding nonbinary identities this Nonbinary Awareness Week < Back Gender, LGBTQIA+ What does it mean to be nonbinary A simple guide to understanding nonbinary identities this Nonbinary Awareness Week MMS Staff 9 Jul 2024 3-min read The term “nonbinary” is used to describe those whose gender identity exists outside of the traditional gender binary of male and female. This concept can encompass a spectrum of gender identities, including gender-fluid, bigender, and multigender, among others. While the specific meaning of nonbinary can vary from person to person, it fundamentally signifies an identity that does not fit exclusively within the categories of man or woman. The gender binary To grasp what it means to be nonbinary, it's essential to first understand the gender binary. The gender binary is the classification of gender into two distinct, opposite forms — man and woman. This system often dictates societal expectations regarding behaviour, roles, and appearance based on one's assigned gender at birth. However, the binary view excludes the experiences of those who identify outside these two categories. Understanding nonbinary identities Nonbinary individuals may experience their gender in a multitude of ways. Some might feel a blend of both man and woman, while others may identify as neither. The term itself serves as an umbrella, covering various identities that don't conform to the binary framework. Despite its growing recognition in contemporary society, nonbinary identities have been acknowledged and respected in numerous cultures for centuries. Nonbinary pronouns Pronouns play a crucial role in affirming a nonbinary person’s identity. In a world where gendered language is prevalent, nonbinary individuals often navigate pronouns that best reflect their gender. Some nonbinary people use binary pronouns like “she/ her” or “he/ him,” while others prefer gender-neutral pronouns such as “they/ them,” “ze/ hir,” or “ze/ zir.” The pronouns someone uses can vary based on their environment and feelings of safety. Gentle reminder: It's important to always use the pronouns a person indicates are appropriate for them. If unsure, opt for gender-neutral language or politely ask for their preferred pronouns. Defining nonbinary Most people, including many transgender individuals, identify as either male or female. However, nonbinary people do not neatly fit into these categories. They might blend elements of both genders, identify with neither, or experience a fluid or evolving gender identity. Terms like genderqueer, agender, bigender, and genderfluid reflect the diverse experiences within the nonbinary community. How to identify if you are nonbinary Figuring out if you are nonbinary is a personal journey that involves self-reflection and exploration. Here are some steps that might help: Think about how you feel about your gender. Do you feel like you don’t fully identify as a man or a woman? Educate yourself about different nonbinary identities and see if any resonate with your experiences. Engaging with nonbinary individuals can provide insight and help you understand your own feelings. Try using different pronouns or labels to see which ones feel most comfortable for you. Consider speaking with a therapist or joining a support group where you can discuss your feelings in a safe and understanding environment. Remember, your gender identity is unique to you, and it’s okay if it takes time to understand and articulate it. How to be respectful and supportive of nonbinary people: Always use the name and pronouns a nonbinary person requests. Avoid asking about their previous names or pronouns. You can't determine someone's gender identity based on appearance. If unsure about pronouns, ask respectfully. Support policies that allow nonbinary people to express their gender freely and safely in public spaces, workplaces, and schools. Recognize the challenges nonbinary individuals face in gendered spaces like restrooms and support their choice of where they feel safest. Engage with nonbinary people to understand their experiences and perspectives. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QXB_VUHRT8o Much much relate? Share it now! WhatsApp Facebook X (Twitter) LinkedIn Copy link < Back SHORTS

Reflecting on the disability advocate's legacy on his birth anniversary < Back Disability, Neurodiversity Remembering Javed Abidi: A pioneer of disability rights in the global South Reflecting on the disability advocate's legacy on his birth anniversary MMS Staff 11 Jun 2024 3-min read Javed Abidi, India’s towering figure in the disability rights movement, passed away in March, 2018 due to a chest infection, at the age of 53. The legacy he leaves behind is monumental, having spearheaded transformative changes that reshaped how disability is perceived and addressed in India and beyond. We remember him on his birth anniversary, reflecting on his journey, battles, and the mark he left on the world. Born this day in 1965 in Aligarh, Uttar Pradesh, Abidi's life was marked by personal challenges from an early age due to spina bifida, a condition that went untreated for years, leading to severe complications. Despite this, Abidi's resolve only grew stronger. After moving to the United States for treatment and education, he graduated from Wright State University well-equipped with both personal experience and academic insight into the world of disabilities. Returning to India in 1989 with a determination to make a difference, Abidi ventured into journalism. His path soon took a pivotal turn towards activism, driven by the dire state of disability rights in India. In 1993, he began his official journey into advocacy, laying the foundations for what would become a nationwide movement for disability rights. Abidi founded the Disability Rights Group (DRG) in 1994, which quickly became a cornerstone for advocacy in the disability space. His efforts were instrumental in the enactment of India’s Disability Act of 1995, a groundbreaking law that laid the groundwork for future advancements in disability rights in India. Abidi's advocacy did not stop there; he pushed for the inclusion of diverse disabilities in the new Rights of Persons with Disabilities (RPwD) Act 2016, significantly expanding the scope of disability rights and protections. In 2013, Javed Abidi was appointed vice-chair of the International Disability Alliance, further amplifying his global influence in advocating for disability rights. Earlier in his career, at politician Sonia Gandhi's invitation, he had established the disability unit at the Rajiv Gandhi Foundation, broadening the impact of his work within India. His proactive approach was also evident in 2004, when a letter he wrote to the Chief Justice of India addressing the need for accessible polling booths for persons with disabilities was transformed into a writ petition. This led the Supreme Court to issue directives ensuring the voting process was made accessible, marking another significant victory in his long list of advocacy achievements. Abidi's strategy was clear and pragmatic. He believed in fighting for rights under the democratic framework of India's constitution, advocating for policies and laws that would ensure education, employment, and accessibility for persons with disabilities. His leadership at the National Centre for Promotion of Employment for Disabled People (NCPEDP) was marked by major campaigns that led to significant policy changes, including India's ratification of the UN Convention on the Rights of Persons with Disabilities in 2007. Abidi was a strategist who knew that real change required pressing the government and private sectors to adopt inclusive policies. His work transcended partisan politics, working with governments of different ideologies to forward the disability rights agenda. Javed Abidi's contributions were not just legislative and policy-driven. He embodied the spirit of "Nothing About Us Without Us," giving a voice to an often overlooked minority and fostering a sense of pride and self-determination among people with disabilities. He believed in the power of collective action and information dissemination, often leveraging his position in New Delhi to mobilise support and advocate for change across various platforms. As we mark his birth anniversary, we remember Javed Abidi not just for what he achieved but for the profound influence he had on the lives of millions. We reflect not just on the laws and policies he helped shape but on his underlying belief in dignity, equality, and the potential of every individual. His vision was one of an inclusive society where disability was not an obstacle but a part of human diversity. His approach guides many disability advocates in their journeys today and reminds us that real change requires resilience, collective action, a visionary approach, and an unwavering commitment to the rights of all individuals. Much much relate? Share it now! WhatsApp Facebook X (Twitter) LinkedIn Copy link < Back SHORTS